I believe that underneath all our shame and guilt, all our flaws and imperfections – our anger, frustration, bad behaviour and insecurities – under all that, we are beautiful glowing beings of light. All of us.
That other stuff just happens when we forget that.
This funny old human life seems to be about remembering that in essence we are glorious, shining and unique in the best possible way. Each one of us – no matter what.
There’s nothing wrong with you. Whatever it is you feel bad about isn’t because you are bad or faulty. It is because somewhere along the line you got the message that you weren’t ok as you are.
That was a lie.
The bottom line is that we need love and acknowledgment to survive and thrive. When we don’t get love and acknowledgment we become scared that we are not good enough to be loved, not important enough to be listened to, not worth the effort of having our needs met. There is nothing more painful than that in all of our human existence. Nothing beats that hurt – not loss, not trauma, not ANYTHING.
And it’s not even true. Ever.
So our task, our soul purpose, is to remember our true shining self – no matter what. It doesn’t feel good to be out of alignment with our soul and this is a wonderful clue for us.
In my opinion, whenever we don’t feel good, it means we are out of alignment with our soul’s true shining nature.
This means that anything in your life which makes you feel anything less than good is actually HELPING you see you are straying from your path.
Did you hear that? Read that sentence again.
Then when you are aware of straying you can choose to come back to your real truth – which is, that you are ALWAYS loved, there is nothing at all wrong with you and you are born to shine your unique glorious light. That is your soul purpose.
So this is where our children come in because – as much as they bring us love, gratitude and joy in the deepest of ways – they also make us feel bad a LOT. Bless their teaching hearts. They just come along and trigger us wherever we still hold a belief that we are not enough, not worthy, unloveable…
When they touch on those spots it hurts so we get angry at them, shout, try to discipline, withdraw our love and approval, try to get away from their neediness… but they are not doing anything wrong. There’s nothing wrong with them either. They are simply designed to show us what healing we need to re-align with our unique light.
You did the same for your own parents.
And look how well that went…
That’s because it all depends on how we deal with these reminders from our children.
When you have a big reaction to your child (or anything else in your life), it is a sure indicator that it is tapping on a part of you that holds the belief you are anything less than wonderful and amazing.
And that is not true.
So, anytime you feel less than GOOD have a look and you’ll find those naughty beliefs hiding, waiting to jump out and misguide you from the truth of you. They come, of course, from our own life experiences. Things your parents or teachers told you, how people treated you, how your needs were met or not…
Those beliefs are NOT TRUE.
So bottom line?
There is nothing wrong with you and when your children (or anything else) drives you nuts, it’s because you are forgetting that.
Your children are helping you remember your true glorious shining nature. They are guiding you back into alignment with your soul self. Bless them, bless them, BLESS them for challenging you so deeply and so often. Whenever you feel bad feelings in response to them or their actions, they are actually helping you learn to feel better.
How to uncover and clear those beliefs to feel better is the topic of this whole blog – but your children are the guides on your path.
Welcome to Feeling Better.
Pass this on to others who may be interested to hear there is something good about being challenged to distraction by our kids…