You have just discovered a truly magical place.
It's hard to explain the amazing space we've created in The Portal of Permission but let me try.
It's a very unusual place where you are allowed to just be you. There's no pressure to keep up, no expectations to do it a certain way, or get things 'right' and yet, there is a LOT of constant love, acceptance, support and encouragement. This rare combination of freedom to exist as yourself AND care and support often brings a quiet, surprising healing.
Imagine this...
Due to the daily drip-feed of the community's tools, love and support, little things have begun to change.
- You find that you can now say 'no' when you don't want to do something – and you don't spend the next three hours feeling guilty about it and doubting yourself...
- You listen to your body better now and also eat more kindly... (yes, that's a thing)
- You set healthier boundaries with people so relationships feel better...
- You accept that you have limited time and energy without constantly feeling you should be doing more...
- You pay attention to what delights you, what makes your heart sing and what actually feels good to YOU and you follow that...
- You become more peaceful in yourself – which, rather wonderfully, can make your relationships more peaceful too...
And you keep making tiny, self-loving choices that all begin to add up until one day you realise:
You're not trying so hard to love yourself anymore.
It's just become normal for you.
Sound like a fantasy? It's not. It's possible. It really is.
This is exactly what we are practicing in this wonderful, supportive community.
Gently.
Kindly.
Powerfully.
I'll let the members tell you in their own words.
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“The Portal has helped me feel legitimate - like it is truly okay to be as I am. That there is nothing wrong with me.
It has changed how I think and feel about myself. It has opened me up to self-acceptance, kindness and love - and that has led to more acceptance and love in my relationships too.
The videos, meditations and daily love notes constantly remind me of this new way of being. I believe in learning by immersion, and The Portal makes that possible.
Together with you and The Portal, I am changing my life.”
Claudia Classens
Interior Designer
Why are we doing this?
Living in fight-flight is not fun! But as you learn how to look after yourself better in your daily choices, your nervous system begins to regulate.
In the fight-flight-freeze-fawn state, you might constantly live in a stressed, tense body that drives you to overeat, be very reactive, self-soothe, have tension headaches, anxiety, mood dips or get sick frequently.
As you regulate, your brain and body begin to function better, and so you can be more present in your life and body - and you stop being so mean to yourself! (that's also a survival thing, by the way)
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“I just want to say this community is such a beautiful place. I'm not afraid to share openly because I know I will be met with compassion.
There is something about being in a space where people are building compassion for themselves and for each other - it makes it feel safe to be real.
I really needed a place where I could say all of this out loud… and be held in it.
Honestly, I could cry just thinking about it. What a blessing this space is.”
Marilyn Sutherland
Relationship Coach
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“Inside the Portal there’s no guilt. No pressure. No feeling ‘behind.’ We move at our own pace, gently held by Eilat and by each other.
I’ve been receiving Eilat’s Wednesday emails for years. When the opportunity came up to join the Portal and receive daily support, I was IN.
If you’re wondering whether to join, I’d say: do it for yourself. Allow yourself the gift of support. Of not having to do it all alone. Of having gentle guidance every single day.
It’s priceless — and deeply needed.”
Lauren Medcalf
Mother City Hikers Founder
When you join you'll get:
- A like-minded supportive community,
- A monthly live Zoom gathering for real talk with Eilat,
- Small Steps Hours where we hang out online and quietly all get our stuff done together
- A short weekly video on the month's self-love theme,
- A Daily Love Note,
- Worksheet and helpful checklist each month
A self-loving pace
This is not a course. It’s not a bootcamp. It’s a community — where we practise real, honest, self-loving choices. Tiny acts of truth. Gentle course-corrections.
There is nothing to “get right.” Nothing to keep up with. You’ll find lots of rich content and loving support — but no performance demand.
Over time, that kind of steady gentleness calms a frazzled nervous system and begins to rewire old patterns.
And surprisingly? It’s more effective than pushing ever was.
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“What’s different here is that you don’t have to mask. Vulnerability is met with real kindness and compassion, because people genuinely understand.
We grow stronger by sharing. And when one person opens up, it gives others permission to do the same.
I can feel the difference The Portal is making to me in gentle, unthreatening ways that manage to soothe rather than alarm. This work regulates the nervous system. Change can be scary, but it never is here! 
Lorna
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“I joined The Portal because I felt like I needed more support in my life. I had done Eilat's 5-day eating workshop, and that felt like such a safe space.
I almost didn’t join because it felt like admitting, in public, that something was wrong with me. But I said yes because I wanted things to change.
Since being here, I’ve become more aware of my needs and I’m starting to find ways to honour them.
What I value most is the kindness and encouragement - towards myself and others. And especially the permission to be vulnerable without feeling shame.
If you’re thinking of joining, I’d say: try it. As a kindness to yourself in a world that can sometimes feel hard to navigate.”
Ka Andy
Here's how it looks inside The Portal of Permission app
If you are deeply tired...
Of being the 'capable one'...
The considerate one who understands everyone else’s needs - but somehow can’t stay with what you need...
This is for you.
When you look after everyone else but not yourself, you can appear functional - even successful - from the outside. But inside, you may feel sort of desperate, like you’ve lost yourself somewhere.
It’s those small, everyday moments…
- You know you need to say no… but you feel guilty about letting them down, so you say yes instead.
- You keep the peace and make sure everyone's okay. Then later you lie awake… wired, resentful, exhausted.
- You overthink simple decisions and stay frozen. You replay conversations in your mind.
- You snap at people you love - and then feel ashamed for it.