You have just discovered a truly magical place.
It's hard to explain the amazing space we've created in The Portal of Permission but let me try.
It's a very unusual community where you are allowed to just be you.
There's no pressure to keep up, no expectations to do things a certain way, or get everything 'right' and yet, there is a LOT of consistent love, acceptance, support and encouragement.
This rare combination of freedom to exist as yourself AND care and support often brings a quiet, surprising healing.
As you learn how to make tiny, self-loving choices it becomes more familiar and one day you realise:
You're not trying so hard to love yourself anymore.
It's just become normal for you.
Sound like a fantasy? It's not. It's possible. It really is.
I'll let the community tell you in their own words.
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“The Portal has helped me feel legitimate - like it is truly okay to be as I am. That there is nothing wrong with me.
It has changed how I think and feel about myself. It has opened me up to self-acceptance, kindness and love - and that has led to more acceptance and love in my relationships too.
The videos, meditations and daily love notes constantly remind me of this new way of being. I believe in learning by immersion, and The Portal makes that possible.
Together with you and The Portal, I am changing my life.”
Claudia Classens
Interior Designer
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This community matters deeply - especially for those of us who are used to giving to others. It is not easy to acknowledge that we don’t have it all figured out. And it is even harder to do that in front of others. Yet somehow, here, it feels possible.
As I do the work and ask these Love Questions, I notice that I show up differently in the world. And the way I show up brings a different kind of healing to the people around me.
As I learn to be brave enough to listen to myself, and soft enough to meet myself with care, it becomes easier to offer that same presence to others.
I can see my growth - not just within this community, but in my life.
The questions keep unfolding: Who am I? What am I here to do? And I’ve come to realise… this is part of the answer.
Because the more I give myself permission to love myself, the more I naturally reflect that back into the world. I meet others with more softness, more humanity. And something begins to shift - not just in me, but around me.
There is something very powerful about that.
And Eilat, I often find myself marvelling at your ability to hold one person with such presence and care, even while others are witnessing it. That kind of space is rare.
Thank you!”
Barbara Thompson-Green
Senior Palliative Care Nurse, Researcher and Integral Coach,
If you are deeply tired...
Of being the 'capable one'...
The considerate one who understands everyone else’s needs - but somehow can’t stay with what you need...
This is for you.
When you look after everyone else but not yourself, you can appear functional - even successful - from the outside. But inside, you may feel sort of desperate, like you’ve lost yourself somewhere.
It’s those small, everyday moments…
- You know you need to say no… but you feel guilty about letting them down, so you say yes instead.
- You keep the peace and make sure everyone's okay. Then later you lie awake… wired, resentful, exhausted.
- You overthink simple decisions and stay frozen. You replay conversations in your mind.
- You snap at people you love - and then feel ashamed for it.
- You carry everyone's voices in your head and have the conversations in there that you can't out loud.
- You scroll, eat, numb out… just to get a break from the internal noise and external overwhelm.
- You work hard - but still feel anxious about money.
- You’re surrounded by people… and somehow still lonely.
- You wonder, "If I stopped doing this, what would happen to everything? Or to me?"
You quietly wonder why life seems easier for everyone else.
And part of you knows you can’t keep living like this.
And the worst part?
You know you're emotionally intelligent! You’ve read the books. You’ve done therapy. You understand the nervous system stuff. You know what's happening. You know what you need to do! And yet...
When your child asks for something, or a client pushes a boundary, or your partner looks disappointed - your body still goes cave-woman. Fight. Flight. Freeze. Fawn. Before you’ve even had a chance to think.
And afterwards you’re left wondering,
“Why can’t I just react differently?”
“Why can’t I just say no?”
Why is this important?
Living in fight-flight is not fun! But as you learn how to look after yourself better in your daily choices, your nervous system begins to regulate.
In the fight-flight-freeze-fawn state, you might constantly live in a stressed, tense body that drives you to overeat, be very reactive, self-soothe, have tension headaches, anxiety, mood dips or get sick frequently.
As you regulate, your brain and body begin to function better, and so you can be more present in your life and body - and you stop being so mean to yourself! (that's also a survival thing, by the way)
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“I just want to say this community is such a beautiful place. I'm not afraid to share openly because I know I will be met with compassion.
There is something about being in a space where people are building compassion for themselves and for each other - it makes it feel safe to be real.
I really needed a place where I could say all of this out loud… and be held in it.
Honestly, I could cry just thinking about it. What a blessing this space is.”
Marilyn Sutherland
Relationship Coach
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“Inside the Portal there’s no guilt. No pressure. No feeling ‘behind.’ We move at our own pace, gently held by Eilat and by each other.
I’ve been receiving Eilat’s Wednesday emails for years. When the opportunity came up to join the Portal and receive daily support, I was IN.
If you’re wondering whether to join, I’d say: do it for yourself. Allow yourself the gift of support. Of not having to do it all alone. Of having gentle guidance every single day.
It’s priceless — and deeply needed.”
Lauren Medcalf
Mother City Hikers Founder
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“What’s different here is that you don’t have to mask. Vulnerability is met with real kindness and compassion, because people genuinely understand.
We grow stronger by sharing. And when one person opens up, it gives others permission to do the same.
I can feel the difference The Portal is making to me in gentle, unthreatening ways that manage to soothe rather than alarm. This work regulates the nervous system. Change can be scary, but it never is here! 
Lorna
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“I joined The Portal because I felt like I needed more support in my life. I had done Eilat's 5-day eating workshop, and that felt like such a safe space.
I almost didn’t join because it felt like admitting, in public, that something was wrong with me. But I said yes because I wanted things to change.
Since being here, I’ve become more aware of my needs and I’m starting to find ways to honour them.
What I value most is the kindness and encouragement - towards myself and others. And especially the permission to be vulnerable without feeling shame.
If you’re thinking of joining, I’d say: try it. As a kindness to yourself in a world that can sometimes feel hard to navigate.”