Do you help clients with their bad choices and quietly wish you could follow your own wonderful advice?

Isn’t it time you also benefit from your expertise?

Accredited self-love training for doctors, psychologists, counsellorscoaches, nurses, social workers, occupational therapists, natural & alternative medicine practitioners.

A year’s CPD / CCE points for learning to love yourself!

* Health Professions Council South Africa (HPCSA) 34 CPD points (including 7 ethics points)  
* International Coaching Federation (ICF) 20 Core Competencies and 11 Resource Development Units

Contact your professional body to see if you can claim your CE with this accredited training certificate

You are welcome to join regardless of whether or not you want to claim the professional development credits

Closing date to enroll is September 8th, 2021


Have you ever felt secretly jealous of your patient or client because they're now doing better than you are?

You helped your client fall back in love with their partner but your relationship is sort of on the rocks at home...

With your guidance your patient has lowered their blood pressure and improved their diabetes symptoms yet your chronic conditions remain out of control...

You helped your client build the confidence to negotiate a pay raise at work and yet, you as a practitioner aren't confident enough to raise your own rates...

Your client loses 50 pounds because you helped them heal something that was blocking them from losing the weight, but you’ve got an extra 20 or 30 hanging on and you still gobble a chocolate bar in between sessions...

You're good at helping people self-care and lower their stress levels and attain a healthier work-life balance...

But when it comes to making those choices for yourself, you can't quite get yourself to say no to that thing, or do the meditation, or be present with your kids after work... 

You find yourself saying yes to your colleague to keep the peace, having the glass of wine, watching that series, scrolling on your phone for too long and then you feel bad about it later. 

Does this sound familiar?

It's the end of the work day and you are TIRED!

You've been nice to people all day long, you helped them feel better, and you just need something nice for yourself.

But you feel bad because you've been short-tempered with your partner or irritated by your kids or you feel lost and empty coming home to a lonely apartment...

You worry that if people at work knew how you REALLY feel about yourself, or how you behave at home, they might lose respect for you. You'd lose clients, colleagues would stop referring to you or it would just be awkward because they'd know the truth about you.

And you ARE trying. You're trying SO hard to do everything right. And when you do manage to set that boundary, stand up for yourself, make the time to take that walk with a friend or eat well, it feels so good! But then life takes over and you forget to do the things that make you feel better and before you know it you're stressed again.

You keep feeling there MUST be another way. Surely life shouldn't be this hard?

And you hear that little voice inside urging you to listen to it, but it doesn't feel realistic to follow it's advice.

Because following your heart's truth is just an unrealistic dream your younger self had. You have to be a grown-up now, right?

You know what you really long to do but you can't imagine actually allowing yourself to do it. And when people tell you you should love yourself more and listen to yourself better it makes you uncomfortable and irritated. You say things like, "I know I need to look after myself better but..." 

And you keep saying yes to things you wish you could say no to. But you find it so hard to say no when your patient or colleague or friend needs something. It's your nature to help and ease discomfort... and your needs come last.  Especially during this time of Covid when so many people are in crisis...

But it has a cost, this caregiving, because you're not getting what you need, so you start to feel desperate for some time off. You drink too much, you binge watch series, you get lost in fantasies about going on holiday somewhere quiet, where no-one will bother you...

And as if things aren’t overwhelming enough, drama keeps happening in your life – you get sick, your machines break down, you have to pay more tax than you expected, someone dies, you have a fight with a colleague or family member...

And you feel you must be getting something wrong and that all this is telling you something important, but you don’t know what it is.

You KNOW you have to do something differently but WHAT and HOW?

There is a solution and it's a lot simpler, faster and more pleasant than you probably fear it will be.

Welcome to
How To Love Yourself In Your Decisions

This is NOT a pre-recorded online course.

It is a transformative, live journey with a small group of fellow healthcare practitioners in which you will learn how to love yourself more in your daily choices at work and at home so you improve your own life and the lives of your patients / clients.

Seven life-changing live, interactive workshops
facilitated by clinical psychologist and best-selling author Eilat Aviram.

You'll learn a simple, powerful method to dare to make the self-loving decisions
you want in every area of your life. 
And you'll be part of a supportive group cheering each other on.

Just one Saturday a month, for seven months, can change your life forever.

Will you do it?

Dr Lizanne Langenhoven, MD
Clinical and Radiation Oncologist, 
South Africa

"Working with Eilat has changed my life"

Eilat has helped me grow tremendously in both my personal and professional life!
The skills I’ve learnt have greatly improved my well-being and the well-being of the patients under my care.
I’ve learned to communicate better with colleagues and support staff. I’ve learned to listen better so that I may address the real need of the person sitting in front of me. It is my wish that every Healthcare Professional might benefit from Eilat's wisdom and guidance so that we may be better and stronger together.

Nas Sydow
Founder of Forever Playful,
South Africa

"Not just another tool"

Eilat’s “If You Loved Yourself” method is not just something you will leave after learning it. It is a tool that you will come to use and refer to over and over, as it takes you and the people you work with on a transformation towards all of your truth and authenticity.  

Fazlin Davids
Gestalt Facilitator, TRE facilitator, Quantum Energy Coach, 
South Africa

"Eilat's work is freeing like I've never experienced before."

Because all the answers are within me - all I have to do is connect with it.

Tanya van Niekerk,

"I eagerly teach Eilat's decision-making method to my clients. It has made a tremendous difference in our lives."  

Being a highly sensitive empath and people pleaser, I have always struggled to make decisions. Since learning Eilat's method, it has been less distressing and anxiety provoking when I am faced with different options. Listening to my truth and trusting it, is such a powerful message. Without question, this is money well spent and a great investment in yourself and your relationships, both personally and professionally. I would highly recommend Eilat and any of her courses to anyone who wants to be challenged in a kind, caring and compassionate manner.

Think of your life seven months from now. 

Can you say for sure that you will be feeling better, eating better, approaching your work in a more satisfying way, setting boundaries in a healthier way, working with your money in a new way, feeling more at peace with your parenting, feeling empowered with your clients...

In seven months time, if you continue as you are, will you make those changes on your own?

Because if you won't, this is an opportunity to be part of a community that will help you do it.

Wouldn't you prefer to feel like this about your next choice?

How would it feel to KNOW how to make choices that are wise and self-loving AND then actually follow through on what you have decided?


This transformational training is for you if:

  • you already often make self-loving decisions and want to get even better at it 
  •  you desperately want to know HOW to start making better choices in your life
  • you want to know how to help your clients make better choices

        You can massively empower yourself AND your clients / patients this year. 

        Will you?

Special offer! Enroll by 1st September and get an 18% discount!

Here’s What You’ll Get When You Sign Up

One Saturday a month for seven months you'll receive a Zoom invitation link to join a small group of colleagues for a live, online intimate workshop with clinical psychologist and author Eilat Aviram. 

You will learn how to use and teach the ALLOW YOU method of decision-making.

Three of these paradigm-shifting workshops are full-day and four of them are half-day.

The aim of these workshops is to:

  • Empower you with methods to make self-loving decisions in your life and work.
  • Show you how to teach these skills to your patients / clients.
  • Fulfil your yearly professional education requirements.
  • Hold a rare, confidential space for practitioners to talk honestly and openly.
  • Give you a supportive group that empowers each other to make the brave self-loving decisions you each long to make.
  • Banish the quiet shame that can come from living with choices you don’t feel good about.
By the end of this training journey, you will:
  • Have shifted some ‘stuckness’ in your own life
  • Be practiced at making deeply satisfying choices in the way you eat, work, look after your body, do relationships, deal with your money, parent your kids, set boundaries…
  • Love yourself more
  • Feel more confident and accepting of who you are as a practitioner and as a person
  • Feel part of this movement of teaching people to love themselves more
  • Feel more in charge of your life and work
  • Be an effortless inspiration for others 
Professional Development
  • Almost or all your CCE/CPD points for the year (including ethics)
  • Become certified in the ‘3-Session Laser Process’ to hone in on a specific difficult area of your client's life and transform it. 
  • Be able to teach the ALLOW YOU decision-making method to your patients / clients
  • Belong to a great referral network of like-minded practitioners 
  • Be part of a close, supportive group of colleagues who are on the same journey 
  • Be listed on the If I Loved Myself website for new clients to find you.

Here’s what people are saying about courses with Eilat

Marchané Janeke

B.Soc.Sc.Hons, Clinical Social Worker,
South Africa

South Africa

"Working with Eilat in everything she puts out there is absolutely and amazingly worth it! "  

With her attention to detail, gentleness and holding space for each person she encounters, I had the ability to focus inwards and really get uncomfortable with my vulnerabilities and people-pleasing.

Being a clinical social worker by profession, this course encouraged me to use the tools as I work, but also to pay it forward and share it with my clients.
I mean, if you are in my life and I haven’t already got you to buy her book, are you really my friend!?

Lorraine Berthoud

ICF PCC Co-active Coach, Emotional Logic Coach and Trainer,

"Eilat's approach brings you back to the core of who you are." 

Her method is a powerful way to make respectful decisions from the inside. Both my personal experience of now consistently checking in again with my true Self, and my professional experience using it with clients, vouch for the real impact of  this disarmingly simple love question. Eilat has a beautiful, empathetic and caring  presence. Her simplicity and accessibility allow for trust to build rapidly, which then allows for efficient changes and strong/deep/real work. 

I've done the 21-Days Journey, and I really enjoyed the way Eilat came both prepared and open to what would come up. There was a lot of very valuable content in it.

The 3-Session Laser Process I did with her was live and a great opportunity to focus on and address a specific issue. It gave me the final "kick" I needed to make a tough decision. I've joined her practitioners course.

Shaamiela Safodien

Registered Psych Counsellor, Mindfulness teacher and Energy healing practitioner,
South Africa

"It enables me to carry the energy of confidence and self-love, which I trust radiates in my own Counselling practice."

In addition to the many gems of guidance I have received from Eilat for as long as she has been holding space for me; the “love question” brings me fully into holding space for myself. It is the affirmation of the work I have done to create safety and compassion with myself. Over time with Eilat’s assistance the way I experience my anxiety around incidents and big decisions has shifted significantly.  Eilat has always helped me remember who I am, and has cheered me on in living a present and joyful life; and this body of work is a true reflection of what she so joyfully gives to others.

What Are These Life-Changing Workshops?

Here are the dates and topics.


Workshop 1: How To Love Yourself

(11th September 2021)  Full-day workshop –

There is a good chance that you profoundly misunderstand what self-love is –and that this misunderstanding is tripping you up. This, along with ONE thing you do, is causing almost all the problems in your life. 

This workshop is a game-changer. 

You will learn and practice the paradigm-shifting ALLOW YOU decision-making method as the foundation of genuinely loving yourself and stopping to do that one thing. 

Transformative. Interactive. Engaging. You will meet and connect with wonderful new colleagues, the day will fly by and you will be changed.

Core intent: For you to leave the workshop clear about self-love and feeling confident and empowered to make more self-loving decisions that feel good and improve your life, and excited to be able to teach your patients this simple method to love themselves more too.

Assessment: Multiple choice questionnaire


Workshop 2: Practicing ALLOW YOU decision-making method in daily choices

(16th October) Half-day workshop - 

When is it appropriate to listen to your own inner truth over someone else’s? Can you put yourself first all the time or are there times it’s not appropriate?

Learning to listen to your inner truth in this way is a practice.

Core intent: To answer some tough questions, strengthen your confidence in this method and troubleshoot challenges encountered during the month of practice.


Workshop 3: How to love yourself in your body and health

(13th November)  Half-day workshop - 

There is a startling connection between your self-love and your health. In fact, your body and your mood are constantly trying to tell you something.

After this workshop you will know how to listen.

Core intent: To teach you the connection between self-love and health and how to use one to strengthen the other. How to ethically teach this to patients.


Workshop 4: How to love yourself in relationships
(11th December) Full-day workshop - 

We are taught that love looks a certain way, but healthy love actually looks surprisingly different.

This workshop will answer the one question I am asked most often in my talks and workshops. 

We will also clarify:

How is self-love not selfish? 

Who is responsible for what in a relationship? 

What are boundaries actually?

How to self-care in any situation.

Core intent: For you to gain a new understanding of what it means to self-love within your relationships and to feel more confident to set healthy boundaries in your life and help patients do the same.

Assessment: Multiple choice questionnaire


Workshop 5: How to love yourself in your food and money

(22nd  January 2022)  Half-day workshop - 

Food and money are powerful ways to deliberately love yourself – but are you using their power wisely?

This workshop will change the way you look at your relationship with food and money.

Core intent: To help you understand the power of food and money in your life and to use them as a form of deliberate self-love. To help you know how to support your clients to self-love more appropriately in their finances and food.


Workshop 6: How to love yourself in your parenting

(19th February 2022) Half-day workshop - 

Parenting offers one of life’s most powerful gifts for self-love and healing. Unfortunately, most of us misunderstand it and use it to disempower ourselves or love ourselves less. 

In this workshop we will focus on this core gift of parenting (your own or your clients’) and how to use it to benefit the parent hugely!

We will also explore how to self-care in the worst of parenting moments and answer that painful question, “Is it ever ok to put myself first as a parent or must I always put the children first?”

Core intent: For you to clearly understand the healing gift of self-love that the challenges of parenting offers so that you can practice it in your own parenting and empower your clients in theirs.


Workshop 7: Training in the ‘3-Session Laser Process’

(12th March 2022) Full-day workshop - 

This workshop will equip you with a powerful short-term intervention method to help a client listen to their inner guidance to transform a specific painful area of their life. 

You’ll also get to experience it during the day and will come out of the day with new insights and decisions.

Core intent: For you to leave the workshop a little more healed and feeling empowered with this new method of working with people.

Assessment: Case study of 3-Session Laser Process to be submitted for certificate of completion.


This is where the extra power comes in

The workshops on their own are enough to change your life BUT 

When you enroll you'll also get:

Bonus 1
Mid-Monthly Live Supervision With Eilat

These workshops are life-changing and the methods are simple to learn, but as with any new paradigm, questions and challenges can come up as we practice them. For this reason you will have access to a monthly live 60-minute supervision Q&A session with Eilat and the group.
These conversations and demonstrations will clear up your dilemmas and questions so you feel empowered to be brave enough to try more self-loving ways to resolve issues in your practice and personal life. The group is small so you WILL get to ask your question.

Bonus 2
Group Support and Supervision Between Workshops

There is great magic in knowing you are part of a supportive community and that you belong. 

And there is untold strength in knowing there is a group of colleagues who 'get it'. They understand what it's like to be learning how to make brave choices and they cheer you on as you try new ways, and you cheer them on too. 

In addition to the monthly supervision with Eilat, you will also have access to a members-only online forum where you can ask questions and give and receive support from your fellow practitioners.

Eilat will also drop in weekly to answer questions and offer suggestions.

People in the past have said it was this group support that made ALL the difference in being able to implement the methods and make radical changes they had NEVER had the courage to make before.

This bonus, on its own, is priceless.

Bonus 3
A Supportive Buddy System

Sometimes its hard to keep yourself accountable - especially if what you are trying is new and brave. It really helps if there is someone who knows your intentions and cheers you on as you try brave new steps.

You will get a little group that's all your own and a brief process to go through with them once a week that will keep you all feeling connected and on-track.

Feedback on this Buddy System from previous groups is that it made them feel less alone and much stronger and braver in making self-loving decisions.

Between the monthly supervision with Eilat, the group support that's available 24/7 and the little group of supportive colleagues cheering you on, you will be held and encouraged for the whole seven-month journey (and beyond if they become lifelong friends).

Bonus 4
A Powerful Referral Network

During this journey you will meet and make friends with like-minded colleagues from around the world.

It is much easier to refer to someone that you know will treat a client / patient in a similar way that you would.

This whole group will be learning how to teach their clients / patients to make self-loving decisions. And you will form some close connections. So when they need to refer to someone, they will think of you.


Bonus 5

A Listing On The Website

On completion of the training your name and contact info will be added to a list of practitioners on the If I Loved Myself website so that people can find a practitioner who uses this approach.

Doing this training can get you positive professional exposure and new clients. Priceless.

Bonus 6

A Copy of 'If You Loved Yourself, What Would You Do Now?'

You will receive a digital copy of Eilat Aviram's best-selling book.

We will be referring to this book throughout the workshops as it offers the foundations of this method and you will have it to refer to long after the course is done.

This book includes chapters on how to love yourself in your work, money, body and health, food, sex and parenting.

Who is Eilat Aviram?

Eilat is a Daring-Decisions Teacher.

For the past 25 years, she has been catalyzing people to DARE TO LOVE THEMSELVES IN THEIR DECISIONS. 

She is a clinical psychologist, hypnotherapist, best-selling author, speaker and energy-healing teacher who facilitates workshops and speaks on stages around the world teaching a simple yet powerful method to listen to your inner Truth in your decisions.

She is the founder of the online empowerment movement, ‘If I Loved Myself’.

She cares deeply about her health-care colleagues not loving themselves enough and is very passionate about creating safe spaces for health-care professionals and leaders to learn how to better manage the massive responsibilities they hold as they care for everyone else.

With these trainings, she hopes to prevent unhappiness, burnout, depression and suicide in this precious group of humans and help them find the courage to live their Truth unapologetically.

“These are the people who preserve our collective well-being. If they’re happier, we will all benefit.  And if they receive more powerful tools to easily teach others self-love, our world will change.” - Eilat Aviram

Eilat has worked in public and private psychiatric hospitals and clinics in both wealthy and socio-economically disadvantaged communities. She is now in private practice.

Here’s what people say about Eilat

Tanya Van Niekerk


"I was shocked by how much we got done in such a short time. I was surprised and in awe of her methods."

Eilat has a fun sense of humour and a caring spirit. She provides a safe, attentive and compassionate environment to reflect, learn and grow.

These learnings have changed me in surprising and remarkable ways.

I am kinder to myself, and I love myself for it.

Katherine-Mary Pitchulik

Jewelery Transformationist

"Eilat is a loving, intuitive and insightful guide on this journey within."

Eilat’s curious and thoughtful holding of space, allowed me to open up into outdated beliefs about myself, and what I previously believed stuck relationship dynamics were probed, questioned and expanded. My lens was tilted inwards curiously asking what I needed to feel nurtured, fulfilled and seen. The work extended into my daily experience through a series of potent questions that started to shift my default responses to family members, colleagues and friends.  

Matthew Khalil

Screenwriting Teacher

"Working with Eilat and using her Love question has changed the way I am in the world."

I am more in the present and making healthier choices. From big choices about how I spend my time to small choices like moving a dirty teacup to the kitchen! The power of this process is that it cuts through all the over analysis and over thinking that can happen in a thereputic process and exposes the heart of my inner voice so that it can guide me through my day. In short I am so much happier, content and at ease with myself and the world. It came at just the right time in my life and felt like the cherry on the top of the cake that is the new, healthier, happier and more content me.

Why Do This?

This course will actually teach you how to self-care properly. Not just for the week after each workshop but for the rest of your life.

And as a result your private life and your work life as a carer will start to feel more congruent. So you don't overreact defensively when someone questions your work. So that your adrenaline isn't always pumping from living in survival mode. 

So that you're not completely exhausted and depleted at the end of the day.

So that you actually start to enjoy your life.

Wouldn't it be nice to smile when you think of your life?

After you learn this method, your choices will become quieter and simpler and leave you smiling. You will probably feel more relaxed about yourself and hopeful about your life. You'll be a better healer. You'll probably have more patience with your family, children and partner. Your relationships can become more genuine and warmer. You'll be able to say 'no' when you need to at work and at home. Your finances may stabilize. Your eating habits will become healthier. Your health will likely improve…

Because you will be listening to yourself and loving yourself in your choices!

All this is priceless.

We pay huge amounts to specialists who can help us figure out just one of those aspects. Here, you get to be in an intimate group with such a specialist AND the benefit of the group of professionals for 37 hours of self-development work, training and support!

If you came to therapy for 37 hours it would cost you around $9,250. And you wouldn't have the extra benefits of the encouragement of a wonderful group of colleagues, having a buddy system, learning professional tools, earning your CEU credits, gaining a referral network, having 24-hour support, getting regular supervision...

Those extra benefits are priceless. And the combination of this whole package means you will have the skills and support to change your life in the ways you most long to.

But it won't cost as much as private therapy.

International Registration in USD:




  • Access to All Seven Live Zoom Workshops totalling 30 hours
    of self-development work, training and support.
  • Seven live Q&A supervision sessions with Eilat and the group.
  • Membership to Private Online Supervision Group
  • Buddy-System weekly supervision and support process
  • Listing on Practitioners List
  • Digital Copy of Book
  • Certification for 3-Session Laser Process
  • CCE / CPD Certificate for
    27+7=34CPD points / 31CCE

3 Payments of $599

Due 8th September, 8th November and 8th January



  • Access to All Seven Live Zoom Workshops totalling 30 hours
    of self-development work, training and support. 
  • Seven live Q&A supervision sessions with Eilat and the group.
  • Membership to Private Online Supervision Group
  • Buddy-System weekly supervision and support process
  • Listing on Practitioners List
  • Digital Copy of Book
  • Certification for 3-Session Laser Process
  • CCE / CPD Certificate for
    27+7=34CPD points / 31CCE
regular course

One sentence summary of what they get




  • Lifetime Access
  • Immediate Start
  • Access to All Modules
Advanced course

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  • Lifetime Access
  • Immediate Start
  • Access to All Modules
  • X number of bonuses
  • Access to Private Facebook Group
  • 30 minute private coaching call

SOUTH AFRICAN CITIZENS: Please see below for payment information in your local currency

South African Registration in ZAR:




  • Access to All Seven Live Zoom Workshops totalling 30 hours
    of self-development work, training and support.
  • Seven live Q&A supervision sessions with Eilat and the group.
  • Buddy-System weekly supervision and support process
  • Membership to Private Online Supervision Group
  • Listing on Practitioners List
  • Digital Copy of Book
  • Certification for 3-Session Laser Process
  • CCE / CPD Certificate for
    27+7=34CPD points / 31CCE
3 payments

3 Payments of R4,000

Due 8th September, 8th November and 8th January



  • Access to All Seven Live Zoom Workshops totalling 30 hours
    of self-development work, training and support.
  • Seven live Q&A supervision sessions with Eilat and the group.
  • Membership to Private Online Supervision Group
  • Buddy-System weekly supervision and support process
  • Listing on Practitioners List
  • Digital Copy of Book
  • Certification for 3-Session Laser Process
  • CCE / CPD Certificate for
    27+7=34CPD points / 31CCE
regular course

One sentence summary of what they get




  • Lifetime Access
  • Immediate Start
  • Access to All Modules
Advanced course

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  • Lifetime Access
  • Immediate Start
  • Access to All Modules
  • X number of bonuses
  • Access to Private Facebook Group
  • 30 minute private coaching call


Course Enrollments close on September 8, 2021


100% Money-Back Guarantee

If you sign up and you realise immediately after attending the first workshop that this just really isn't for you, simply write to me and let me know and I will refund you the full payment (after deduction for the first workshop, book and a small admin fee). 

It is very important to me that you KNOW this is valuable to you and that you feel loved by yourself for making this choice to join the journey.


If you realise it is not what you thought it would be, or for some reason it does not feel self-loving to continue, I will refund your money for the rest of the course.

As you weigh up your pros and cons, remember to also consider the cost of NOT doing this.

What if you DON’T learn to love yourself more in the next few months?

I find this a really useful aspect to think about when I make a decision. "What if I don't do this?"

Think of your life seven months from now. Can you say for sure that you will be feeling better, eating better, approaching your work in a more satisfying way, setting boundaries in a healthier way, working with your money in a new way, feeling more at peace with your parenting, feeling empowered with your clients...

In seven months time, if you continue as you are, will you make those changes on your own?

Because if you join this journey you will. In seven months time your life will look and feel substantially more satisfying to you. Because you will be practicing making choices that make you feel bouncy. Bouncy and excited about your life might become your new normal. Imagine that?

So think of the cost of walking past this opportunity versus saying yes to it. 

Its a choice. If you’ve done the free training, use the method now.  ALLOW YOU 

If you loved yourself, what would you do now?

If your heart is saying 'YES, I want this', don’t wait!
Spaces are limited.

Look at what past students have to say

Georgina Vintin

MSc, PG dip Systemic Psychotherapy, 


"It was a small group and felt very safe and beautifully held and contained by Eilat."

Eilat’s course on decision making was very helpful. She used a creative and interactive approach over zoom to be able to self reflect and share my decision making patterns with the group. It was a small group and felt very safe and beautifully held and contained by Eilat.

Nicole Mansour

Integral+ Coach
South Africa

"Eilat has reminded me how to listen to my heart"

"Eilat has reminded me how to listen to my heart which has empowered me to create a life that I love"

Tanya Van Niekerk


It was one of the best investments I have made for myself.

These learnings have changed me in surprising and remarkable ways.  While I sometimes forget to ask myself the question: “If I am kind to myself, what would I do now?”, I am increasingly spontaneously reacting as if I consciously thought about it.

I am kinder to myself, and I love myself for it.

Frequently Asked Questions

How does the course work?

One Saturday a month for seven months you will be part of a live, online intimate workshop with clinical psychologist and author Eilat Aviram. You will learn how to use and teach the ALLOW YOU method of decision-making. 

Three of these are full-day workshops and four are half-day workshops.

During the workshops there will be lots of time for group discussions of personal and professional challenges in the arena of self-loving decision-making. Enormous growth and insight comes from hearing other’s experiences and sharing our own in a safe space.

You will get to practice the method in pairs or small groups in breakout rooms so that you feel comfortable and confident to use these tools in your own life and teach them to your clients. 

Mid-month between each workshop, you will be invited to join an hour-long live Q&A supervision with Eilat. The group is small so you WILL get to ask your question and hear Eilat's input on it.

You will also be invited to join a private Facebook group for your group to ask questions and get input and support from colleagues during the month. It's the place to come to with any dilemmas you may face and get the group's input and encouragement.

You will also be assigned a small Buddy Group (2-4 people) and given a check-in process to do weekly with each other as an extra support. They and the whole group will cheer you on as you make brave new choices in your life. And you'll get to support them as they do so too.

You'll have the digital version of the book 'If You Loved Yourself, What Would You Do Now?' to read in your own time and we will work with different chapters of it during each workshop.

At the end of this course, you will learn how to take a client or patient through a three session deep-dive into transforming one particular problem area with this method. You will receive a completion certificate of the 3- Session Laser Process at the end of the course and can use it in your practice.

What do I get when I sign up?

1)     Seven monthly, live, online workshops via Zoom with Eilat 

·       three full-day (7 hour) workshops

·       four shorter (4 hour) workshops. 

The total training time is 30 hours. 

2)  You will receive access to a 60-minute live group supervision with Eilat once a month.

3)     You will have a private online group to ask questions and offer and receive support from the group and Eilat between workshops as you all learn and practice making and teaching more self-loving decisions and choices. 

4)  You will be assigned a small Buddy Group and a weekly process to do with them weekly to support each other in your brave new choices.

5)     A new referral network of like-minded colleagues.

6)     You will be listed on the If I Loved Myself website as a practitioner for referrals.

7) You will be provided with a digital copy of the book ‘If You Loved Yourself, What Would You Do Now?’ as part of the training and we will refer to it during the course.

Is there support during the month?


Your understanding of self-love and decisions will shift to a new paradigm and it helps to be supported by others also learning it.

Monthly supervision groups with Eilat are the first layer of support.

Between workshops you will have a private members-only online group to chat, ask questions and offer and receive support from the group and Eilat so that you feel supported and supervised by a community that is like-minded and on the same path as you.

Once a week you will connect with your own little Buddy group to go through a short process to help each other feel strong and motivated.

Who can join?

The group discussions and professional methods taught are based on the understanding that you already have the necessary training for working with people in this intimate and powerful way. 

To join this group you need:

·       Qualification as a health professional or allied health professional through a recognised training institution 


·       Qualification as a Health or Life Coach through a recognised training institution.


·       Registration with your professional body 


·       Recognition of life experience and prior learning will be considered for appropriate applicants who do not have the abovementioned qualifications. 

What about confidentiality?

Confidentiality is strictly kept for both practitioners and their patients. The group and workshops are considered a professional space and therefore the right to confidentiality applies

Participants will sign a confidentiality agreement to not disclose personal information shared by fellow practitioners about themselves or their patients within the group. 

In addition no real names or details will be used in discussions of client / patient cases. An alias will need to be used by the presenting professional for any personal names and company names in the case.

What will be required for each workshop?

·       Attendance at the full workshop one Saturday a month. 

.   Attendance at the monthly Q&A supervision.

.   Weekly, short texting check-in with your small Buddy group.

·       There is no homework or extra study hours in this course. What is asked for is a willingness during the month to be aware of and practice the skills taught in the workshop.

·       A capacity and willingness for psychological self-reflection (previous or current psychotherapy is recommended but not a pre-requisite). 

·       A desire to love yourself more.

·       Curiosity to find the courage and the knowledge to be able to make wiser and more self-loving decisions in your life and practice.

·       TECHNOLOGY REQUIREMENTS  include access to computer, internet access and email. 

·       You will need a private space to participate in the workshops. Headphones are best if anyone else is around. There will be a lot of sharing and discussions of clinical and personal experiences, so for the sake of confidentiality it is important that non-participants are not privy to the conversations.

·       A journal, water and food for yourself during the workshops.

Do I have to attend the workshops live?

The workshops are live and facilitated by Eilat Aviram via Zoom.

Audio recordings of the workshops will be available but live attendance is important for CPD points and training experience. Breakout rooms for example, cannot be recorded.
Special arrangements can be made if a workshop is unavoidably missed.

What dates are the workshops?

The dates of the Zoom workshops are: 

11 September 2021

16 October 2021

13 November 2021

11 December 2021

22 January 2022

19 February 2022

12 March 2022

Three of these (September, December and March) are 6 ½ hour workshops and the other four are 3 ½ hour workshops. 

The dates of the live Q&A / group supervision sessions with Eilat are:

30 Sepember

28 October

18 November

16 December

3 February

24 February

24 March

What times will the workshops take place?

Times are aimed at international convenience, for example morning in the US and afternoon/evening in Europe / Africa. Time will be finalized once the makeup of the group’s time zones is known.

Workshops are one Saturday a month

Three Full day workshops
14:00-21:00 SA/Europe, 6:00-13:00 MT, 08:00-15:00 EST

Four Half day workshops
14:00-18:00 SA/Europe, 6:00-10:00 MT, 08:00-12:00 EST

Supervision / Q&A are one Thursday a month at
20:00-21:00 SA/Europe, 12:00-13:00 MT, 14:00-15:00 EST

Dates of workshops and supervisions are in the block above.

Are there scholarships / Subsidised places?

If you work with socio-economically disadvantaged or marginalised communities and you cannot afford the full rate, please send an email  to see if you qualify for a reduced rate or scholarship.

Use the subject line 'SCHOLARSHIP APPLICATION'

Please include:

  1. Your name
  2. Name of your organisation
  3. What work the organisation does in the community
  4. What work you personally do
  5. What is the amount you would be able to afford 

Send your email to:

This is my passion...

You are a precious healer in our world.

When anyone is ill or distressed in some way, you are the one they come to for help. And you help so generously.

If we support YOU, we support EVERYONE.

That's why I've created a safe space and a loving community for you to learn new tools to make choices that leave you feeling confident and good about your life. I hope you join.

I believe our world will benefit greatly if you are healthy and happy. That's my mission.

Love from Eilat